Geek Love Pt. 2

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Why, oh why, is there a part two?

Well, geek met not-so geek and fell in love. Said geek (Me!) hasn’t been happier or more in love in her entire life.

Let me take this back ten months so that my later point makes more sense.

I met Ricky through an online dating website, and it’s really interesting how we first got in contact with each other. I was online browsing profiles when I came across Ricky. Initially I thought he was very attractive, but soon discovered from his “About Me” section that he was into salsa dancing, soccer, and played bass in a salsa band in the cultured big city of Austin, TX. Right away I was disappointed. There was no way this attractive cultured man would be interested in a geeky girl who played video games and went through a thick novel in the matter of a couple of days. So I clicked the “Meet Him” option that indicated that I’d like to meet him, but didn’t message him. I felt as though I already knew the response or the possible lack thereof.

I wandered on and off the site for an hour or so before I saw that I had a new message. From Ricky. I was genuinely surprised. In the message, he said hello and challenged me to answer some really random yet thought provoking questions. One of them was, “If you were alone at night in any city, what city would it be and why?” I found this message so much more engaging than the “Hi, how r u? Ur pretty” messages that I frequently got. I was intrigued!

The messages continued that night led to text messaging and those led to phone calls. I was finding out that he was much more than what he seemed and we were instantaneously drawn to each other. Those phone calls continued for a week before we set up our first date.

Needless to say, we hit it off despite the differences in our interests. Here is where I will admit that I was wrong in the way that I presented this topic to begin with.

I stated that geeks should date geeks in my original post. I was convinced there could be no other way. I do believe that this is still partially true, but there was one major difference.

 

geek

noun\ˈgēk\

: a person who is socially awkward and unpopular : a usually intelligent person who does not fit in with other people

: a person who is very interested in and knows a lot about a particular field or activity

 

This blog serves the purpose of revealing to others that geeks aren’t always socially awkward or unpopular. However, the second definition always holds true.

In that regard, a geek should date another geek. By that I mean, a person who is very passionate about one or more subjects should date someone who is the same way. The major correction I’m making to my initial blog is this: The subjects that each geek is passionate about need not be the same!

After ten months in a loving happy relationship with someone who hardly plays games, reads, or indulges in the purchasing of one too many geeky t-shirts, I’ve found that the most important thing is that we can relate to each other’s passions because we have our own. We also respect each other for being passionate no matter what it’s about. The icing on the cake is our equal openness to trying and experiencing new things; particularly what the other is passionate about.

Don’t get me wrong though; there are both sides to this coin. Some people are so closed minded that they unconsciously require their s/o to be into the exact same things. However, it doesn’t have to be a problem that she doesn’t play Black Ops or that he doesn’t want to read steamy romance novels. As long as two people can keep an open mind and understand the passion his/her significant other has for one or more subjects.

Personally, I think geeks have some of the best understanding of passions hence why geeks should date geeks.

In the past ten months, I have turned into a big FC Barcelona fan from watching the games with Ricky when I’ve never watched soccer before in my life. At the same time, Ricky has admitted to being a fan of Harry Potter after he reluctantly agreed to watch all of the movies with me for the first time. I may not be ready to purchase each year’s Barca jersey and he may not be interested in reading the bulk that is H.P. but we were open minded and found these new interests through each other.

So there it is. I stand corrected, albeit partially corrected but still!

 

~ Britney

 

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Geek meets Geek. But.. how?

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Online

This is definitely the most common way. It’s the safest easiest way for us geeks to connect with others geeks. Literally. Most of us are techies by nature and are often online quite a bit. This applies not only to the internet in general, but also online gaming.

Pros

– Meets geeks from all over the world

– No judgement over appearances

Cons

– Interaction is limited to online

My Suggestions

Keep up with the good work? 🙂 This is the best way to meet other geeks, in my opinion, so no advice needed.

 

Conventions

I only recently went to my first geeky convention. (I know. Shame on me.) That was QuakeCon. I couldn’t have felt more at home surrounded by people that I know wouldn’t judge me, but actually be interested in me. It’s too much fun enjoying everything that a convention has to offer with people just like yourself. You gt to share your excitement with them and vice versa.

Pros

– Meets geeks of the same type as yourself. (I.E.: Otaku, Gamer, Comic Reader)

– Meet local & traveling geeks

Cons

– Conventions are often crowded, busy, and loud

My Suggestions

Get involved in the activities that interest you at the conventions. More often than not, they’re pretty fun and you get to meet other geeks during.

 

Stores

Specialty stores are a really good way to run into geeks with the same interests. Table top game stores, video game stores, card stores, anime stores, ect. You won’t always run into friendly folks at the stores, but occasionally you’ll run into some rarities that don’t mind talking.

Pros

– Meet local geeks

Cons

– Some geeks shop and leave in a hurry

My Suggestions

Stop in at favorite stores more often if possible. You might run into familiar faces. Another way it to follow what I suggested at conventions. Sometimes the local stores will have events and activities that you can join in on.

 

My Personal Experiences

I find that I have a hard time meeting other geeks locally. I think the first reason is the culture of the city that I live in. It’s a south Texas city that is old fashion and culturally driven. There isn’t much going on in regards to the geeky world. There are barely a handful of specialty geeky stores and the conventions are even rarer. People also tend to keep to themselves and I think that makes for a lot of private geeks.

To make matters worse, I’m of the female variety. When I step foot in my local stores, I’m just oogled and not really spoken to except by the guys working there. As for geeky girls in this city, they are like an endangered species. Some rare mythical unicorn type that I can’t seem to locate. Those few that do exist are often incognito and you won’t know they’re geeky unless you can talk to them for a while.

This brings me to my own personal strategy. *Ahem* Wearing my geeky merchandise out and about.

Nothing speaks from geek to geek quite like geeky clothing and accessories. It’s the perfect bait! I’ve noticed that geeks can’t help but compliment or comment on that Bleach shirt or on this Mario mushroom key-chain. People you’d never expect will stop to comment and your mind will officially be blown. Mine has several times over.

So when all else fails, wear your geeky stuff proudly and see who speaks up!

 

Britney

Back from the Dead! ..And QuakeCon 2013

.. And I am back! No really, I am.

First off, I really have to apologize to all of our followers that I haven’t been posting. Serious props go to Kelly for posting even though life has been throwing both of us some crazy curve balls lately. She kept the heart of this blog going, and I appreciate it a million times over!

QuakeCon

I’d like to start off by telling everyone that I did attend QuakeCon 2013 in Dallas earlier this month. It was epic. Unfortunately, I didn’t take my PC with me, but I did get to stay at a gorgeous hotel and enjoy all the other things that come along with going to a gaming convention. I.E.: Free shit, merchandise, video game demo’s, and more free shit.

It was actually a great opportunity for me to get merchandise from PC hardware companies that I normally wouldn’t have the opportunity or go out of my way to get merchandise from. Alienware, GX Gaming, EVGA, ect. all had booths or more set up to go check new things out and get free lanyards, hats, and so on.

It also goes without saying that I absolutely loved being in a hotel filled to the brim with geeky people. Seriously. Loved it. I live in a city that doesn’t have many geeky people, or at least they are not so openly geeky. Having everyone gathering all up in one place really makes a geek feel at home.  😀

In regards to my personal life and to make a long story not so long, I am living now in my own place. Or rather, the place that was mine and my ex’s. *Ahem* It’s a long damn story. Either way, I am settled and ready to drown myself in the world of blogging once more. Look forward to more posts dropping the next few days. Hopefully FFXIV won’t keep me too preoccupied.  😉  No promises though, people. Geeky girl here.

A quick message to all those who’re playing, going to play, or trying to play FFXIV: A.R.R.:

What the hell were they thinking not creating enough room per server and then not enough servers that they had to cancel character creation on all but one North American server?!

.. Ok, I’m done ranting. But seriously, WTF, Square Enix?

On a completely different note, here are some photo’s from QuakeCon!

Thanks everyone!

Britney

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Geeks: The Functional Nerds?

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I always used to call myself a “functional nerd”. I don’t know why, but I always liked the term “nerd” better than “geek”. I pretty much had them reversed in my head. Little did I know that what I really meant was that I’m a geek!

The reason I dubbed myself “functional nerd” was because I was an individual that did geeky things, but could still function in a social situation. Now I’m no social butterfly, but I enjoy going out, have drinks, dancing, ect.

What really made me come to this terminology was dating. Being a geeky girl, I did often go on dates with guys interested in the same things. Oh boy, did I come across a lot of “no-so-functional nerds”. They were awkward, didn’t seem to know how to act, and sometimes didn’t even appear to want to be there. In truth, these guys were actually nerds. Nerds are often into similar things as geeks, but not as socially adept and don’t usually step outside of their nerdy comfort zone.

So my “functional nerd” definition is actually that of a geek. The “not-so-functional” defined nerds.

I hope I haven’t lost you!

Now let’s backtrack to those guys I mentioned that I’ve dated. I thought it may be amusing and what have you to share one of those bad dates with you.

For the sake of privacy, we’ll call the guy Joe. I met Joe on a popular online dating website.

Joe was a fairly attractive guys, into a lot of the same things, and so I messaged him. Needless to say, things went well with the messaging, then texting, and lastly phone conversations. There did seem a good possibility we would get along so we set up a date.

Our meet up location was Starbucks. As luck would have it, I showed up first. (Sarcasm) I have yet to decide which is worse: Arriving first, or them arriving first and waiting on you. But I digress.

I settled in at an outside table to wait, and as soon as I saw Joe get out of his car and walk over I knew I was in for a weird date. Let me describe to you what I saw. He was wearing a dark green sweater tucked into black Dickies pants that were then tucked into tall black combat boots. This could be normal, but throw in a belt with a huge Invader Zim belt buckle on the front and it just went odd. To baffle me more, he was even wearing a floor length black trench coat over all of this. He stood out like a sore thumb on this day that was neither cold nor hot.

If the outfit wasn’t bad enough, he looked older than he was in his photos on the website. IT wasn’t flattering either. So here I was, unable to duck out of the date as it had just started. So I sucked it up and convinced myself that it really couldn’t be that bad, could it?

The date almost immediately changed locations. He suggested we go look around the mall and I agreed, but since we drove separately he offered to drive me. I agreed. (BIG MISTAKE!)

So we get to the mall, and I find out really quickly that Joe has no idea what personal space is. As soon as we walked inside, he reached over and poked me in the side! Talk about weird. I didn’t know how to react, so I just tried to laugh it off. Well, he pushed it and asked, “What, no poke back?” I jokingly said no, but he persisted again. “So you don’t do poke wars?” Seriously?! Again, I tried to laugh it off and said no. Believe it or not, it took a while for him to let it go.

From here on, things progressively got worse. Joe decided to not only direct where we were walking, the pace (fast) at which we were walking, but also the conversation. I literally could not get a word in, nor did I get to stop and look at any stores. This mall is shaped in a “U”, mind you. We entered at one end, and walked straight to the opposite because Joe was keeping such a fast pace that we had no time to stop. Did I mentioned that he occasionally decided to try the poking thing again? Yeah, awkward.

As this.. “date” went on, I was seeking comfort by texting my friends. This seemed the only way to stay sane, after all. Well, at some point Joe realized that we actually hadn’t been in any stores. So we went back and I slinked away to the other side of the store to continue texting my friends who wanted to know what was going on. Joe, however, decided that it would be a fine idea to come up behind me without my knowing and find out who I was texting! He did this a few times actually, even going as far as reading the text and asking me what was going on. I couldn’t believe he would do that! It was completely out of line.

Things continued like that until I think he finally clued in that I was ready to leave/wasn’t having a good time. He drove me back to my car, and I made my exit before he could even think about trying to kiss me!

Joe was the perfect example of a nerd. He liked a lot of the same things, but he didn’t have a clue as to how to act on a date or in general. I received no respect and no personal space. This was the reason why I came up with the thought that I want to date “functional nerds” which has evolved into: I want to date geeks, not nerds!

Hope you enjoyed my story! It was definitely an interesting date, and I learned quite a bit. FYI, girls, don’t agree to be picked up on first dates. Having your date pick you up might seem romantic and old fashion, but you may just end up stuck on an uncomfortable date with no get-away car. I learned my lesson.  😉

Britney

Why is there a Geeky Girl Stigma?

GnG would like to introduce: Who, What, and Why – Wednesday? Every Wednesday, Kelly and I will pick out of those categories and talk about a person, an item, or just a thought. Today, mine’s a “Why”?

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Time and time again, I hear geeky guys swear up and down that they’d like nothing more than be in a relationship with a geeky girl. This would be the type of girl who would play video games all night with him instead of complain about needing “us time”, and the same type to get all giddy when a new awesome anime series starts. The list goes on and on, really.

My beef with the geeky guys of society is, why don’t you talk to us? I’ve noticed that when I walk into a table top game store, a comic store, a video game store, ect. that the guys inside don’t talk to me. (Excluding the employees!) Now normally I don’t second guess that type of behavior. You’re in a store, buying what you want, and then you leave. I can understand that. However, when you’re in a store that also doubles as a place to socialize and play table top games there is no excuse!

I’m talking dozens of geeky guys. All of them are talking, playing games, cracking jokes, and shopping. It looks like tons of fun, until I realize that none of them even look my way a second time. It’s like I don’t exist. No looking, no eye contact, no talking. You’d think I was some kind of Apex predator about to eat them alive! It may not be direct, but we get shunned. I can be literally standing right next to one of my guy friends who is talking to another geeky guy and not be acknowledged at all by the other guy.

I’ve voiced these thoughts to friends, and I’ve had the guys tell me. “Well, they’re too shy and intimidated.” On some level, I accept this. Girls can intimidate guys, especially the introverted types. However, I’m here now to let everyone in on something. Geeky girls are going to be the easiest type of girl that a geeky guy can interact with! We’re into the same things, have the same passions, and keep the same hobbies. We are the girls of your dreams.

So speak up, geeky guys! Your wonder girls are in these stores, at these events, playing these games, and yet you don’t dare talk to us. No wonder geeky guys complain that they’re so lonely in the girl department.

I’m insanely interested in everyone’s input. Are you a geeky girl suffering the same neglect, or a geeky girl that hasn’t had this problem? Oppositely speaking, Are you a geeky guy that’s intimated, or maybe one that isn’t afraid to speak up at all? Tell me, tell me!

Britney

Introducing: Flashback Friday

Kelly and I have decided to introduce a few themed days so that everyone can read a fresh new entry or two.. or three a week. Yes, there will be more than just this one. 🙂

Flashback Friday is just how it sounds. We will take a look at things, people, events, and such from the past and discuss them.

For this Flashback Friday, I’ve decided to talk about Virtual Pets, especially the handheld ones.

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There was Tamagotchi, GigaPet, and NanoBaby. They were huge when I was a kid, and to this day I can’t figure out why. That’s not to say that I wasn’t a part of this fandom because I actually still am.

I can understand why a kid with no pets would gravitate towards these little guys, but I personally owned a few cats, dogs, and other pets and I still was hooked. Why?

It had to have been because I could take it anywhere with me. That no matter whether my friends were talking to me, my little virtual pet would always need me and want me. 

Or at least, that’s the conclusion I’ve come to. They were a constant friend that went with you everywhere. Not even your pet dog or kitty could do that.

I can still remember getting my GigaPet taken away from me several times at my elementary. I would go home so distraught and tell my parents that the teacher took him. (It was a him, ok!) I had the Digital Doggie, and that lil’ guy would beep at me mid-class and off he went into the teacher’s desk. I would always be so upset. I mean, how would I clean his poop if he was in her desk?

Haha, anyway.. I gravitated toward virtual pets and virtual life for years. The first Sims got me good, and I was always looking for the next big virtual pet game or toy. I had the Digital Doggie, the Alien, and the Tamagotchi game for Gameboy. I loved building SimCities and years later even tried Zoo Tycoon.

So tell me, did you get sucked into this craze? Are you still drawn to it?

I can admit that I am, although I don’t own anything but a Tamagotchi at this point. And you know where he is? Paused and in a drawer somewhere in my apartment. 😉

Britney